Snip it via thedailylove.com by Mastin Kipp
I think that a great coach/mentor or friend is really great at seeing through us. And that is really want I want to talk about today is honesty and transparency in relationships.
I know in my own relationship, it’s been a growing edge for me to feel safe enough to tell the truth of how I am feeling. And the more and more Jenna and I are together, the more I love her and she loves me, the more the crap comes up. Because, let’s face it, when we Love, we also get scared because we are scared of being hurt. And so the deeper we Love, the more fear comes up in the beginning.
One of the fundamental skills I’ve learned from Laurie is just telling the truth. Not in a manipulative or mean way, but in an honest and loving way. One of the things that Laurie has helped to inspire in me with my relationship with Jenna is a sense that it is okay for me to tell the truth. As I’ve been feeling and acting into that, it’s been amazing to me how much my truth I either hold back, or cover up with a jab.
There is a little boy inside of me who is scared of being hurt, and sometimes it’s easier for me to just be a little sarcastic or a little insensitive, than it is for me to just share my truth. But as Jenna and I are growing together, the Love that is within me that is trying to find her, is making it’s way out.
It’s scary to really admit that you Love someone. It’s scary to admit your feelings and innermost thoughts. It’s scary to ask for what you want, when the possibility of the other person running is there. But, if we want to live an authentic and love filled life, it’s also necessary.
One of my major learning curves in telling the truth in my relationships has been telling on myself, instead of jabbing. I’m trying my best to express myself honestly without making Jenna wrong. It’s hard, because the last thing my inner child really wants is to be hurt again. But, and listen to me, the pain we risk by opening up is far better than the pain we risk by closing down. That is what Love is asking us to do – be open, be vulnerable and to show ourselves, and we are naked, imperfect and dying to give and receive Love.
The more I work with Laurie, the more she is guiding me on how to tell the truth, to myself and to my girl. And the truth is scary because sometimes there are things I don’t want to see about myself. But at this point in my life, I owe it to me, I owe to The Uni-verse, I own it to Jenna, to Laurie and to you to be as honest and transparent as I can.
Even writing these words are scary because I am afraid of judgment. But, there is another part of me that knows that if these words reach even one person and inspires them, then it was worth it.
The truth will set you free, but first is may scare the crap out of you! Where can you tell the truth today?